A Letter To My Daughter,

We live in some difficult times and it can feel overwhelming even for older girls like myself.  But sweet girl, I want you to hold on to a few things and never forget them.

First of all, you are not a mistake and you are never less than deserving.  If anyone says these things they are most certainly not from God. Stand firm in that truth. Things will happen in life that make us feel badly but that is not what God thinks, that is what the world thinks.  Others will have more than and some will have less than, trust God’s hand is with us and help where you can.  Celebrate the gifts he has given you, do not be afraid, be strong and courageous.

Sweetheart it is all too easy to get confused from the messages around us, they come at us from every direction.  People are different, that is the beauty of God’s creation.  Different is good, it is our gifts.  But differences can also bring fear and people get angry.  It is okay to disagree, it is okay to be angry.  Jesus felt anger, it is a real emotion, it is not wrong to feel anger.  But it is never okay to be cruel.

I want you to have a voice and stand up for what you believe in.  Jesus calls us to speak from two things, truth and love.  It has to be a combination of both, it can’t just be love because he also stands for truth. It sounds easy right?  But as any person with lungs and is breathing will agree, we don’t always know the right decisions and we certainly don’t always agree.  And even when we think we are making right decisions, we will ultimately make wrong ones in the mix of the right ones.  Jesus helps and guides us, this will always be true.

There are times when we are simply not in control of the happenings around us.  It is frustrating but know this truth, God is in control.  Perhaps not in our time-table or in our understanding but he is control.  The cross looked like a big win for Jesus’s executors. However just a few short days later, he rose from the dead.  Not such a big win after all.

Sweetheart, when in doubt, always ask yourself what would love have me do?  Will this action or decision care for others in love or cause others to stumble?  Will it cause us to stumble.  It is a fine line saying any decision for ourselves is ours to make because wrong turns do bring destruction, not just in our own lives but for others around us.  Anyone who has ever made a poor decision can attest to this, Mom included.  You will make mistakes, just plan on that fact.  But the more you consider the love and truth equation, the stronger decision maker you will be. Rest assured, the stronger we stand in Christ the stronger the opposition to bring it down.  Just ask Jesus, he was constantly sought out in hopes of catching him making the wrong decisions.  He knows how hard it is and he knows we can’t do it without him.

Jesus is not just a God of love, truth must be taken in to consideration.  Your relationship with him will guide you.  Our conscience is that guide and those who seek him with all our hearts are moved by it.  Don’t ignore it. That is my best advice. When we ignore it, we stumble.  When you stumble, you can always come to me sweetheart.  I will not define you by the stumble because we are defined by Jesus and his message is clear.  Love, justice, mercy, faith and forgiveness.  When in doubt, humbly stand with those for they are more than the drops in the ocean.

A few devotions have been affirming this week.

Matthew 23:1-5 ~ Then Jesus said to the crowds and to his disciples, “The teachers of religious law and the Pharisees are the official interpreters of the Scriptures.  So practice whatever they say to you, but don’t follow their example.  For they don’t practice what they teach.  They crush you with impossible religious demands and never lift a finger to help ease the burden.  Everything they do is for show.”

Joshua 17:3 ~ However, Zelophehad son of Hepher, who was a descendant of Manasseh, Makir and Gilead, had no sons. Instead, he had five daughters.  These women came to Eleazar the priest, Joshua son of Nun, and the Israelite leaders and said, “The Lord commanded Moses to give us an inheritance along with the men of our tribe.”  So Joshua gave them an inheritance along with their uncles, as the Lord had commanded.

A few things I LOVE about this devotion.

  • It is nestled in the middle of male dominated inheritance passages.
  • God’s reminder we are on the same level as brothers and sisters.
  • They boldly yet humbly approached Joshua with petition.
  • They trusted God’s truth and control.

My favorite part though… Where society would label them undeserving and unfit for receiving an inheritance, God simply labeled them His.  And because they were His, they could ask for all that they needed.

Don’t confuse what society says for what God says sweet girl.  I love seeing your smile when Drops in the Ocean plays on the radio.  I love hearing how much you love singing to it.  Don’t ever stop baby girl.


I want you as you are not as you ought to be.  Won’t you lay down your guard and come to me.  The shame that grips you now is crippling it breaks my heart to see you suffering ‘Cause I am for you I’m not against you.  If you wanna know how far my love can go, just how deep, just how wide.  If you wanna see how much you mean to me, look at my hands, look at my side.  If you could count the times I’d say you are forgiven it’s more than the drops in the ocean. 

Loved By Grace,